| Location | Glasgow |
| Age | 55 years |
| Cause of Death | Not Listed? |
| Date of Birth | 23/09/1952 |
| Date of Death | 29/09/2007 |
| Visitors | 350 since 21/08/2009 |
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Our dear mother was taken from us far too early. Her death was caused by a house fire which
contributed to her breathing problems and death was finally ruled due to COPD. As her death was
initially caused by a house fire in her flat, we as a family had a very hard time after the fire as
it occured on the 26/9 only 3 days after her 55th birthday and for a further 3 days we sat at her
bedside hoping and praying that she would pull through. Sadly this was not to happen as 3 days
later on the 29/9 we were told the devasting news that our mum was not going to wake up and that i
had to give permission for the hospital to switch off her ventilator. This was the hardest decision
that my family and i have every had to make. But our mother being the fighter that she was held on
to her life for 1hr and 35mins before she finally went to sleep for the last time.
As her death was classed as suspicious, we as a family had to undergo a series of police
interviews which was very hard to deal with at this time and then to make things even more difficult
we had to wait 10 weeks before they finally released her poor body to us for burial only due to the
circumstances of her death. During this time my oldest brother stephen and i had to formally
identify her body in the city morgue, this is an image of our mum that will stay in our minds till
the day that we die as it was very upsetting as she didnt look like our mum at all.
Our mum was a very happy, fun loving person who would do anything for anybody if she could. If
you had no money and she only had £1 in her purse she would give it to you. She was always up for
a laugh and some fun. She loved spending time with her family, her daughters annemarie and partner
george, tracy and partner ewan and her grandkids jo and scott, her sons stephen and partner louise
and martin and his good friend john.
She also had her own very loving siblings bobby, margaret and lizzie and their kids.
We all love and miss our dear mum everyday, the pain of her going will never go away it only
feels a little bit easier due to the family support that we give each other.
GONE BUT NEVER EVER FORGOTTEN MUM XXX
HELLO AGAIN
hi mum thought id come and say hello as i can't sleep and i was thinking of you. god mum i really miss you. and i feel as if im losing my mind. the doc has put me on anti depressants now. i just hope they start working soon. as i feel like crap. im get really upset over stupid we things and i feel really angry notat anyone but at myself for letting myself get this way. cant believe i have to spend another christmas and birthday without you and dad. i wish you's were here to give me a hug. god what am i like ten to 4 in the morning and sitting crying my eyes out lol bloody daftty. if u were here you would be telling me to stop my bloody crying and get to sleep. im going to start working on ur video tommorow thats right i havent told you about that have i? well im making a video in ur memory. i have really old pic of u when u were in ur teens and younger omg ur had some hairstyles when u were younger mum if u were here u would get slagged rotten lol. but ur not so i guess i cant. why didnt you take me with you? you always told me that u were angry coz ur mum didnt take u when she said she would and u would make sure that i came with you infact u promised. but i suppose il forgive u. i was lying in my bed the other night staring at the celing and all i could think of was u showing me invicible spiders lol. i miss those days i better try and get some sleep mum. but i love you loads and miss u millions xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
2 years without you
hey mum, ive being putting off coming on here all day as im finding today really hard. Ewan is away today which is making it worse for me. I went up to spend the day with martin today and make sure he was ok but also because i couldnt face sitting alone at home today.
I went to your grave again today with the kids to put some more flowers on it for you, i hope you like them. I really miss you, you know. I think i better go now mum as im finding it hard to see the screen now mum. I love you loads and miss you too mum xxxxxxxxxxxxx
your 2 year anniversary
hi mum, i cant believe it has been 2 years already since you have left us the time has just flew right pass me. it still hurts me everyday that you are not here i still wake up sometime expecting to hear the tv blaring or you coughing or hear you singing i still remeber the day you were hammering a a nail in the wall singing if i had a hammer at 8 o clock in the morning lol i could have killed you that morning but now when i think of it i laugh and id give anything to hear you sing it again. i was in the pub yesterday with martin and john and i was thinking about you and how i would cope with today and martin was putting songs on the juke box and he must have been thinking the same because he put il be watching you on and i felt like crying. i miss you so much mum and sometimes i just wish i could be with you but i cant just now but i hope i can be soon. as life down here is still pretty dull mind you i had a good weekend with martin and john mind you it wasnt all enjoyable as i have blisters on my feet now lol well mum i better go and get some sleep il have a few beers on you tonight love you and miss you loads xxx
HAPPY BIRTHDAY AULD YIN
Hi mum its your birthday today, We havent forgotton you so dont think we have, im coming to put down your new flowers soon. So HAPPY 57TH BIRTHDAY MUM from me, ewan, jo and wee scott love you loads and miss you more.
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happy birthday mum
another birthday another year that your not here
i miss you so much
i wish there was some way you could get in touch
as life has been dark
now that you have entered the the light
there is noone here to keep my life sunny and bright
happy birthday mum hope you like my wee poem just made it up on the spot miss you mum and love you lots hope you have a lovely day with nana, grandad, dad, elizabeth and all our dearly missed pets.
lots of love annie and george xxxx
Happy Birthday Ma
happy birthday to you happy birthday to you happy birthday dera ma happy birthday to you
loving and missing you loads
louisexoxoxoxo
mum
hi mum, me again just dropping in to say hi and tell you i miss you i had a nightmare about your on monday morning and i ended up crying luckily george was here to give me a hug hes good that way he has been my rock since you left. he asked me the other night what you thought of him and i told u liked him because he made me happy im just sorry that i didnt let him meet you more sooner and you could have got to know each other better i always tell him all about you and laughs with me when i tell him all the funny things you used to do and say. i just wish we could have those times back well mum i better go and get sorted before i phone and he can tell iv been crying cause hel just worry and im ok its just a bit hard without you thats all xx
mum
hi mum, me again just dropping in to say hi and tell you i miss you i had a nightmare about your on monday morning and i ended up crying luckily george was here to give me a hug hes good that way he has been my rock since you left nearly everyone bad mouths him but they dont know him the way i do and they dont see how sweet and caring he is he asked me the other night what you thought of him and i told u liked him because he made me happy im just sorry that i didnt let him meet you more sooner and you could have got to know each other better i always tell him all about you and laughs with me when i tell him all the funny things you used to do and say. i just wish we could have those times back well mum i better go and get sorted before i phone and he can tell iv been crying cause hel just worry and im ok its just a bit hard without you thats all xx
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